Black & White

Question. Why do you think Black men date White women?

Well, from what I have observed over the years, some Black men choose white over black because of the lack of tolerance and appreciation for their black counterparts. Black women are known to be very strong and they may, to some, be perceived as angry and have "bad" attitudes. This is not always so true.

Personally, I do not have a problem with Black men dating white women. When I see them together I really feel sorry for the woman because little does she know that Black man may not necessarily be with her because she just so happens to be intelligent, ambitious, independent and beautiful. He's with her because he thinks she is a push over, doesn't talk back, timid, and will stroke his ego whenever he needs it.

Those types of Black men do not feel that they have received that from a black woman. They believe Black women "talk back" as they like to call it. I call it standing up to them when they try to force their egotistic and chauvinist ways upon them.

I know that sometimes we Black women can be a force to reckon with but that does not have to be a negative connotation. It just means that we are a bit more challenging and deserve men that are not intimidated by that strength.

Don't get me wrong white women. I'm not saying that White women are passive or weak, on the contrary. I know a lot of Caucasion women who do stand up for themselves and have what I call a little 'talk back' in them like us Black sistas. Just keep in mind the real reasons why some Black men date white women.

Just how committed can a Black man be?

I ask the question, 'Just how committed can a Black man be?' because honestly if you asked yourself this question you may wonder if it's even possible. Is he really expected to be committed whole heartily? I say not really. I mean as a Black woman I feel that I can truly give some insight into this matter because I have lived and seen how Black men conduct themselves in their relationships, whether it be in a both African American relationship or a bi-racial relationship, it doesn't matter.

Now, don't get me wrong I love my good Black men, I have one myself, but there are some things that are just

inescapable and undeniable when it comes to their duty to their wives, if they even marry someone to begin with.

I know I sound like a 'Mad Black Woman', although I have experienced a heartbreak or two, but I just feel that most Black men are just incapable of staying with their families. I think it's all in their make up stemming all the way back to slavery. Back then they had to leave for reasons beyond their control but now they choose to leave the moment they are unhappy, please! as if women are always happy with them. If all the women who were unhappy in their relationships left there would be no such thing as a single mother.